Pavy, having seen this video, I think maybe Bobby needs to move away, but maybe Vegas-far isn't so good. I think upon further reflection he needs to be far enough away to not have drop-ins, but not far enough away to not get back. This family seems way dysfunctional with this move.
I did something similar to you back in '96 and it worked out fine, but I had everybody's blessing (not that it mattered in my situation), and I was a touch older....