Ex GF's

[xstud]

So hopefully this does not sound too gay or anything..

I just had a crazy ass dream about the last girl I was in a relationship, we almost married and I moved across the country for her and whatnot then we proceeded to have a great 6-8 months and then 2-3 years of totally off again on again bullshit, probably spent close to 15k on trips to and from Minneapolis etc... long story short I relocate and she decides its over. Well for such a horrible ass experience why the hell would I even remotely have a dream about someone like this?

I mean I don't know about many other guys here but I have maybe 1 Ex GF I still talk to and that is probably as icy of a friendship as you can get. I do however talk to a few girls I had 1-3 dates with but it just never went anywhere at the time. I am in the thought that when something hits a peak with someone it is a "peak" for a reason and you likely will never touch it again especially if it is a rocky relationship. Granted you maybe were close with that person, hell in my case I went ring shopping more than once, but honestly what would cause you to think about someone like this let alone talk to or still be friends with them?

I guess what probably brought this up is checking my e-mail the other day and getting about 30 10.00 off coupons from 1-800-Flowers a coupon for each order I sent between 2006-2008 because of some class action lawsuit so it made me realize "Holy shit, I spent a ton on this girl"

How many guys/girls still chat with Ex's and if so.. why?

 

[Archie]

wow, I'll have to go check and see how many flowers.com coupons I got.... I'd think maybe 3 or 4.... but 30? wow Stud you are quite the romantic.

I still have a few dreams a year, about my HS sweet heart. we had a 2 year relationship and it was up and down and rocky at times.... otherwise I don't think too much about any other past gf's. My current gf has all the good qualities and more of all the other girls all added up together.

 

[xstud]

wow, I'll have to go check and see how many flowers.com coupons I got.... I'd think maybe 3 or 4.... but 30? wow Stud you are quite the romantic.

I still have a few dreams a year, about my HS sweet heart. we had a 2 year relationship and it was up and down and rocky at times.... otherwise I don't think too much about any other past gf's. My current gf has all the good qualities and more of all the other girls all added up together.

Before you call me romantic.. maybe it was due to me having to make things up to the person lol

 

[Archie]

Before you call me romantic.. maybe it was due to me having to make things up to the person lol

great point.... you have to learn the art of making girls think it was their fault when you do somthing to make them mad.....

 

[Bread]

I always make an attempt to remain friends with an ex, but it never seems to pan out. The way I see it is, this is a human being who at one point you loved more than anything or anyone else in the world. Just because you decide to part ways, why do the "rules" state that you must now be mortal enemies? I don't agree with it.

But it is very difficult to remain in a friendship with someone under such circumstances. I've tried.

As for the dream, man you have NO control over what you dream about. Sure current events will often creep into the subliminal, but that could be directly followed by me having sex with a 90-year old woman. Do I secretly want to do that? Hell no. But dreams are evil sometimes. Banging an ex is the least of your lucidity problems, budday!

 

[xstud]

Very good points Bread and funny ones too.


I think what I have to start doing is staring at porn 1-2 hours before I go try to get some sleep that way I have probably a 80% chance I dream about some random porn chick and cut this B.S

 

[MrMonkey]

Inquiring minds want to know, any of these dreams required a change of undies at wake up call?

 

[Bread]

Very good points Bread and funny ones too.


I think what I have to start doing is staring at porn 1-2 hours before I go try to get some sleep that way I have probably a 80% chance I dream about some random porn chick and cut this B.S

Solid strategy. But remember you will see a lot of hard cocks while looking at the porn as well. It's a slippery slope...literally.

 

[xstud]

Inquiring minds want to know, any of these dreams required a change of undies at wake up call?

Unfortunately it was not a pleasurable ex gf dream. It was more of one of those type of dreams where you wake up and say "God damn wtf was I thinking?"

 

[Mudcat]

My ex-wife (common-law spousal equivalent) is probably my best friend today. There was a 9 month period after the break-up where things were not too cheery. But then we started inching back closer together - in a slightly different sort of relationship - and thing settled into the current state which, as I say, is a "best friend" type of thing.

We lean on each other for all kinds of stuff. She invested in my business when I was starting up (and was well rewarded).

 

[AMBy]

Well I have to say that it depends on the girl and the situation. I have girls that I have been out with a few times or it was a casual thing and I have remained friends after but that is because we both understood what was happening when we were in the middle of the "relationship" (if thats what you can call it). As for serious gf exes well that is another story. I was friends with one that I dated for over 4 years until just a few months ago. I realized that it wasn't exactly healthy or fair to the next person that i was with to be friends with that person. As much as I knew that nothing was ever going to happen with my ex and that part of my life was done it is hard to explain that to the person you are currently dating. I also know that not everyone is capable of having that type of relationship with someone they used to date.

As for my other ex we are not friends at all. Her and I actually knew each other since we were literally 10 or 11 years old and we remained friends through college and eventually ended up dating after. It didn't work out and she wanted to be friends but I had and still have no interest. I realized throughout the ordeal that she really wasn't a good person and didn't treat me as right at all. She treated me in such a way that I though I wouldn't even want someone in my life as a friend that would treat me that way (or anyone for that matter).

So I guess the short answer is sometimes......haha

 

[betplom]

so much wisdom here.

 

[EnglishMike]

so much wisdom here.

I've never remained friends with any gf. They tend to run a mile when I try to introduce the flip flops that Katie Couric auctioned on EBay for charity into our sexual role play.

They just think I'm weird.

 

[betplom]

I've never remained friends with any gf. They tend to run a mile when I try to introduce the flip flops that Katie Couric auctioned on EBay for charity into our sexual role play.

They just think I'm weird.