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Wedding gifts...cash or registry?

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Teela
Minimum of $250.


Just kidding - we eloped and didn't bother with that stuff.
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Same with my wife and I. I actually couldn't imagine getting married in a church like setting or whatever and having a gift registry setup. It's kind of an indirect way of asking/begging for something. Certainly this isn't intended to offend those who have used this, but I think it's kind of, I don't know, tacky and awkward.
 
Well considering it can cost people 100-200 per head for the wedding..esp if open bar and good entertainment... I don't know if they should just "be happy" you came to their wedding. I prefer to have a registry available. It just makes sense. I don't know anyone who has not been registered some3where.

What I don't like is opening an invite to a wedding or shower, and having a bunch of the little cards for the diff stores where they are registered fall out. It's easy enough to find out where a couple is registered if you want to go that route....putting it on the invitation is not necessary imo..or something I wouldn't do. THAT is tacky to me...but I have seen many people do it.

I don't think people are "begging" for gifts when they do this. Have you ever gone to a wedding and not given a gift? It's just the way it is. Wouldn't it be best to not have to deal with a mismatch of various china patterns and 8 blenders like Saulty said? Who wants to deal with taking all that stuff back? Only way around it is giving cash.

Do you have the same opinion of baby showers Pucky?

We need Matty's take on this.
 
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Personally I can't understand spending that kind of money on a wedding to begin with. I would rather take the cash (if being paid for by parents) and use it as a down payment on a house or something.
 
I totally get it...but have you ever seen someone attend a wedding without giving a gift? It's a practical thing. No one is required to use them. I never had one, but I got married at the court house. A big wedding was never important to me.

I think Prince William and whats her name had their registry set up as a donation deal for charity.
 
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What I don't like is opening an invite to a wedding or shower, and having a bunch of the little cards for the diff stores where they are registered fall out. It's easy enough to find out where a couple is registered if you want to go that route....putting it on the invitation is not necessary imo..or something I wouldn't do. THAT is tacky to me...but I have seen many people do it.

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:lol: does that actually happen? And these are the people getting married and polluting the world with their offspring.

Pucky is right. Just because people tend to give gifts doesn't mean its ok to pressure them into it. You shouldn't expect friends to pay for your party. If they do it should be interpreted as a sign of friendship, niceness etc. Not a ho hum meaningless procedure.
 
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:lol: does that actually happen? And these are the people getting married and polluting the world with their offspring.

Pucky is right. Just because people tend to give gifts doesn't mean its ok to pressure them into it. You shouldn't expect friends to pay for your party. If they do it should be interpreted as a sign of friendship, niceness etc. Not a ho hum meaningless procedure.
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Right or wrong, you guys are not living in the real world. I have never been to a wedding without a registry. I think you guys are missing the practicality angle. You don't have to give off the registry, but you are crazy if you think it is not a commonly accepted normal practice. I can't believe you have never heard of this. They do it for babies too Reno. If you look at most any houseware/department store, you will see a link to wedding/baby registries. I don't think it's about pressure for a gift, I think people know that most people will give a gift, and they don't want to have to return 12 toasters.


But I disagree on announcing it in the form of little ads fallng out of the invites. This is mostly done for baby showers I think.
 
Registry etiquette http://www.realsimple.com/weddings/...-registry-dos-donts-00000000006425/index.html



Just read Emily Post like wedding etiquette says it's ok to include the little cards in the shower invites, because the whole point of a shower is to get gifts...I guess that makes sense..plus it's being thrown by someone else.


It also says that etiquette says you are expected to give a gift if you are invited whether or not you are able to attend the wedding. I had never heard that.


On a final note, I'm giving cash...but this registry discussion has been very informative. Thank you for your participation.
 
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RogueJuror
How did your family react when you told them what had yall done?
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They expect such shenanigans from me.

I had a baby registry. I didn't want one and I did NOT want a baby shower. I was told that I was not getting a choice. We ended up registering at one place because we were given a discount on the items that we had on our registry. We ended up getting registry items mailed from the store by family/friends that live a good distance away.
 
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