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Objectification of sex and members of the opposite sex - Disassociating From Emotion

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A common way we bypass dealing with the emotional stress involved in dating is by disassociating our emotions from intimacy and sex. If we shut off our need for intimacy and connection, then our sexual actions no longer rub up against our emotional maps and we can greatly diminish the neediness and anxiety we once felt while still reaping the superficial benefits. It takes time and practice, but once disassociated from our emotions, we can enjoy the sex and validation of dating without concerns for intimacy, connection, and in some cases, ethics.


  • Sexism. Viewing the other sex as inferior or inherently evil/inept is a sure way to redirect ones emotional problems outward onto a population at large rather than dealing with them yourself. Without fail, men who treat and view women as some inferior other, are more often than not projecting their own anger and insecurities onto the women they meet rather than dealing with them. The same goes for women.

  • Manipulation, lines and tactics. By adopting lines, manipulation or tactics to meet and seduce women, a man is withholding his true identity from the woman and therefore is withholding his emotional map as well. If a woman is falling for the perception of who he is rather than who he really is, then theres far less risk for conjuring up the buried emotional stress and pain of his prior relationships.

  • Overuse of humor, teasing, bantering. A classic strategy of distraction. Not that jokes or teasing are always bad, but an interaction of nothing but jokes and teasing is a means to communicate without saying anything important, to enjoy yourselves without actually do anything, and to feel like you know each other without actually knowing a thing. This is most typical of English-speaking cultures, as they tend to use sarcasm and teasing as a means to imply affection rather than actually showing it.

  • Stripclubs, prostitution, pornography. A way to experience ones sexuality vicariously through an empty, idealized vessel, whether its on a screen, a pole, or running you $100 an hour.
Generally, the more resentment one is harboring towards the opposite sex, the more one objectifies them. Men who had turbulent relationships with their mothers, men who were left by their wives or girlfriends, or men who were tormented by women growing up, these men will likely find it much easier and more enticing to objectify and measure their sex lives than to confront their demons and overcome their emotional scars with the women they become involved with.

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