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Social Surrogacy-woudl you be ok with it?

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So according to the new Elle magazine (as relayed by ABC news,) the "best kept secret" of the fertility industry is a rise in what is known as social or "vanity" surrogacy. Women are choosing to have other women carry their babies, not due to medical reasons but so as not to affect their careers and/or body. Others are just afraid of the birthing process.


Personally I see nothing wrong with it, but there is of course a backlash and some strong opjections being voiced by those who believe carrying the baby to term and giving birth is an integral part of the mothering process. Maybe I just don't see it as I don't have much of a maternal instinct anyway.

Curious how the men here would feel about this. Would it bother you if your wife/baby mama did not want to go thru the pregnancy process?
Would it be easier to accept if you had already had one the "natural" way?

Btw, it's expensive ...very expensive..as in $100k per child, but I don't want that part to be a consideration when answering.
 
I don't really care what other people do, but I do agree that actually being pregnant, and giving birth is an essential part of the process and that it is a bonding experience. IMPO if you are that vain, or career focused, it probably isn't a good time for you to have a child regardless of how.

On the other side of it, I wouldn't want to carry someone else's child. I guess if I was desperate enough for the money I would.
 
This is so wrong in many ways. A baby not bonding with the mother during pregnancy is the worst thing you can do him/her. Child would probably end up scarred for life when he/she finds out mommy was too busy to be pregnant with him/her.
 
Cami
There are so many bods that would be made, or wouldn't be the same.
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Bods not the same. lol...that's true!

I am deferring to the ones with kids, as I am not aware of how much "bonding" actually takes place while in the womb. I know it makes sense on the surface. I know the early years are formative, and I am sure there is science to back up what you are saying, but I would have to read more about potential emotional scarring to convince me that this would be terribly harmful. But then again, I don't have that baby instinct, so it probably doesn't sound as terrible to me as it may to someone else.
I'm sure there are studies that have been done...


I have still allowed a %2 chance of adoption. I would want an older child. After essentially caring for mom who is now similar to caring for a toddler, I am certain of that much. Although it is probably much different caring for a child who is expected to act like a child than caring for a parent who is now acting like a child. But now I'm getting off topic....
 
There are some similarities between an older person deteriorating and acting as a child, but it's totally different when you're caring for your own child, very different.

I don't know so much about the science behind it, I'm just coming from an emotional/physically built bond mind frame, and that's not to say those bonds can't be created once said child is born, I just think it would be different.
 
Boner_18
I've got no problem with it. Co-worker did this with twins.

I'd love the wife to consider it if it would ensure she continues on her career path uninterrupted.
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Did your co-worker do it for medical reasons or for some other reason? I wonder if there are any guys here who have had kids that would agree with you/me. I bet those who have been thru it would opt to go the natural route.
 
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