Anatomy Of A Relationship Through GL Eyes

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So I went to this wine and tapas spot yesterday for a glass of wine. The bartender Cindy was cute. Not porn star hot or slutty, but cute.

After a tasting of different wines she had mentioned they were looking for a part time bartender and I should come back today.

I took that as a slight invite to her wanting to see my handsome mug again.

So this morning I washed my puny cock and balls and made my way to the wine bar to meet the owner. The owner was with a wine rep, so as I waited at the bar to talk to her, Cindy came over TWICE to converse. She is 5ft 2 and 106 pounds. Brown hair and brown eyes.

I have no idea if she has a boyfriend. I'm guessing ages late twenties.

I'm using this thread as a social experiment. The anatomy of a relationship from the "asking on a date" to "marriage"

I will go back on Monday if I am not contacted before that and if she is working, I will ask her out.
 
She knows how to fish for a tip and they are actually looking for a part time bartender. I think you've mistaken some signals.
 
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It sounds to me like you're playing it well Casp, proximity is everything. I would not ask her out until you know you don't have the job because if you do get the job I would think if she is not involved a date will be 1000% easier to get, but if you do ask and then you get the gig you've shot yourself in the foot before you've even walked through the door. I mean it's not the worst thing in the world to have asked her out but yeah, you'd be that guy.

Yours truly,

Captain Obvious
 
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Why would you want to date a bartender?


You should be aiming higher, pal.

Matty bagged himself a doctor, Shirley you could do the same.
 
What if you do get the gig, do you really want to be dating a co-worker? What if the date doesn't go well and then there is some awkwardness between you and a new co worker.

Don't confuse conversation and kindness for flirtatiousness. Maybe she did flirt with you, I don't know, I wasn't there. It becomes hard for anyone to offer you solid advice when you omit so much.

You said she came over twice to converse with you. What were the conversations about? how long did the conversations last? Was she flirting?

When she offered you to come back and apply for the job, had you mentioned you were a bar tender as well? If so, then it isn't necessarily her wanting to see you again, so much as trying to fill a position or to be nice.

I agree with Bacon on this one, I do NOT think you should ask her out just yet.

If you get the gig, wait and see how you guys click, if you get along well and she flirts, then go for it.

If you don't get the gig, then go for it, got nothing to lose at that point.
 
Boner_18
She knows how to fish for a tip and they are actually looking for a part time bartender. I think you've mistaken some signals.
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Boner, what you say is usually the truth. This I am sure of, she wasn't being nice for a tip.

Today she didn't have any reason to talk to me, and I wasn't there drinking.
 
All things considered, it's not quite as bad as dating/marrying your roommate.

:mrquincy:
 
I hear you Bacon & Cami. I will still go in on Monday. I won't ask her out, but I will flesh out more of where I think her head is at.

As far as the gig goes, I need to check back Monday regardless.
 
Now that I think on it more...I have noticed a few dates or prospects seem to go awry, perhaps you have a tendency to come on too strong?
 
I wouldn't want to see you get yourself friend zoned. But feels things out a bit first is all I am saying, but you should at least flirt with her...at least then she will know you are interested even if you don't ask her out.
 
Cami
Now that I think on it more...I have noticed a few dates or prospects seem to go awry, perhaps you have a tendency to come on too strong?
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My dates tend to go well.

I don't come on strong at all.

The mishaps on my dates are more humorous than my personality.
 
I was once worked at a restaurant as a bus boy, cold side cook, etc. and I had a crsuh on the bartender. Now that bartender is my wife (and fwiw she is far more successful than me). You get your bartender casperwaits. You get your bartender.
 
Casperwaits
My dates tend to go well.

I don't come on strong at all.

The mishaps on my dates are more humorous than my personality.
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Well I just remembering a few dates that went wrong, and thought maybe you came on too strong...from a chicks perspective...I certainly wasn't trying to offend...just being helpful.

Do you make the women laugh? it's all about laughter. chicks dig that shit.
 
Boner_18
I was once worked at a restaurant as a bus boy, cold side cook, etc. and I had a crsuh on the bartender. Now that bartender is my wife (and fwiw she is far more successful than me). You get your bartender casperwaits. You get your bartender.
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awes! :lovebubbles:

Boner, what's the wife's career?
 
Don't go for a postdoctoral fellow. It's academia's version of a McJob. I suspect that most bartenders make more money than my wife-to-be.
 
She works in Finance, specifically Wealth Management.
 
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